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terri - 2007-02-16 13:20:06
Have you got a way to just talk to an attorney for input on what you can expect with even a trial separation? It just seems like you do all the work around the house anyhow and all he provides (besides crap) is a little financial help. Might be worth talking to someone in Legal Aid about...?
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LA - 2007-02-16 15:37:33
I think the thing which kept me angry all these years was being smacked with the evidence of his utter deficiency as a human but his insistance on telling how bad ((I)) sucked. He mocked and laughed at me, hammered on my weak spots and I let him because I was his wife. When I became an un-wife I spent about 4 months just being awed by what a fuck-up he is, another couple months being angry at him and myself and then I let it go. His screw ups don't reflect on me, you know? I don't have to feel shamed or pretend his messes aren't what they are to buy myself some peace. I just opted out of connecting anything about him to MY life and got on with the business of healing myself and figuring out where I wanted to go. If I must have interaction with him I expect it to be flubbed. Makes it easier. Like the driveway. I expected to be trapped. Once you give up any expectation of sanity, competence or that his shit reflects on you in any way life gets a lot creamier. I honestly don't care what happens to him or what kind of trouble he's in. Not my job, man. You deserve to be happy, honey. We all do. ~LA
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cccerberus - 2007-02-16 22:07:55
how is the situation with the waldorflocks- have they melted any yet? you have to do your breathing and exercise, remember? the anger isn't helping you any- i'm just playing the devil's advocate here. at least rig up a sauna- a hotplate under a long tablecloth under a table will do it. the winters thewre are long cold and hard- melt that depression under a sauna. you have to be whole and sane, your A's mom! we love you! Wanna borrow $100 until whenever? Get all your Diarylandians to put their $ where their mouth is, we know you're good for it in the summer.
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terri - 2007-02-17 14:23:48
Thanks for your little note, it did help clarify (to me, at least) that you are very aware of the need for your plan. I do wish you the best of luck and I hope all your witchy friends (and I mean that in the BEST possible way) can find some way to make this journey move more quickly for you. You have done so much in the past year to get to the goal...I hope it isn't much farther off in the future. Good luck and I wish you a great weekend and a wonderful visit with your friend on Monday!!.
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